The gender-industrial complex, Part V (Permanent vs. temporary consequences)

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These off-label drugs being given to younger and younger children, often after all of one counseling session, have never been tested for long-term side effects in children, and aren’t FDA-approved. There are many suspected side effects already being reported, and one pretty major known side effect: sterilization. A kid in elementary school or junior high doesn’t have the cognitive ability to understand the reality of long-term consequences. Even kids who aren’t on these drugs haven’t decided their reproductive futures. They may never want kids at 12, only to change their minds at 30, or decide an only child is better than the 10 kids they daydreamt about for years.


Minors shouldn’t be allowed to make irreversible medical decisions, and their parents shouldn’t make such decisions on their behalf either. It’s not like they need extreme chemo or surgery to treat a very aggressive cancer. Someone so young doesn’t understand long-term consequences. We don’t let children get married, drive, drink, vote, serve in the military, take out mortgages, rent apartments, represent themselves in court, or decide their own medical treatment, so why do they suddenly have so much wisdom as to absolutely know they want to medically and surgically modify their bodies to an irreversible degree?

It’s not as though young people never change their minds. For years, I wanted eight kids, and even before I began getting past my most fertile years, I slowly changed my mind about wanting that many. I now would have no problem only ever having one child. Likewise, most people no longer marry the first person they ever date. That person you swear is your “first and only love!” may not even be your partner for six months. Though there are more than a few happy exceptions, there’s a reason there’s such a high divorce rate among people who marry in their late teens and early twenties.

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If you really want something, and are serious about it, you’ll keep wanting it when you’re a legal adult and can make that decision on your own. I wanted my nostril pierced since I saw it on two classmates in seventh grade, and by the time I finally had it done at 23, it was more than just a passing fancy or something I thought was cool. I’d done a lot of research, and went to a good studio whose head piercer is also an LPN (though not the APP-certified studio I had my future piercings at).

I’ve also wanted piercings all up my ears since I first saw that style on a ticket girl at Idlewild Park when I was about seven. I now understand my particular ear anatomy may not support that exact style, but I still want to trick the remainder of my ears out in a way which works for me. I don’t have much of a midway helix to sustain a normal piercing on either ear, and I’m totally okay with that. That just means having a conch piercing where a midway helix might be on someone else.

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However, taking sterilizing hormones and having radical surgery are irreversible decisions. It’s not like religious conversion, a tattoo or piercing, marriage, or moving far away. You can always revert back to your religion of origin, join a new faith, or live without religion, have a tattoo covered up or lasered off, get a divorce, move home or to a better locale, or retire a piercing. If you change your mind again, you can remarry your ex, get something repierced, move again, rejoin your faith, or get the tattoo redone. But you can’t undo breast removal, radical genital surgery, or the effects of longterm drug use.

People are afraid of “being on the wrong side of history,” but I have a hunch more people will become as skeptical as I’ve become of this sudden explosion. Britain alone reports a 930% increase in just six years, which is beyond disproportionate. I can already see the tide turning, as more people publicly question all this. Someday this will be viewed the same way decent, normal people now view lobotomies, twilight sleep, and arsenic injections, and we’ll see lots of lawsuits and tell-alls.


5 thoughts on “The gender-industrial complex, Part V (Permanent vs. temporary consequences)

  1. I think you hit the nail on the head when you list the things we don’t let minors do and ask why do you let children make the decision about their gender. I do remember lots of things I declared wouldn’t change when I was younger. The only one I’ve stuck to is I still don’t want kids.

    I’ve read a few articles on the subject, not enough to be knowledgable, but to get the gist, and gender with kids is such a tricky topic. I want to say ‘yes support your child’, but at the same time, it’s like we need to question the kids too, dig a little and maybe just wait and see. If anything, it appears to me that these sorts of things you can’t put a blanket statement over. It should be case by case and catered to each child so later on in life they don’t end up with a choice made that they didn’t understand and now regret.


  2. I completely agree with you. I think parents get this idea that they’re supposed to be appeasing their children and giving them everything they wanted. Society is messed up. We’re supposed to be telling them “no” when stupidity hits, and picking them up when they fall down–not helping them fall.


  3. You’re exactly right about children changing their minds all the time. I’ve changed my mind about plenty of things over the years. It’s surprising what kinds of decisions young people are making these days when they need more time to think things over.


  4. I agree! I also think this whole movement reinforces conservative, sexist stereotypes and not to mention the damage it does to lesbian communities. When I was a kid (I’m 26) most people considered Legos to be unisex. Now if your daughter likes Legos, she might really be your son.
    Personally, I think being against eugenics is the right side of history. This is the sterilization of children who do not conform to sexist stereotypes.

    It’s ironic that the trans cult asserts that 9 year-olds can decide to delay puberty and be sterilized with a lot of the medical establishment agreeing (because money, money, money) and yet adults, especially women, who wish to be sterilized are often denied that and treated very disrespectfully. I have a cousin the same age as me who already has two kids and is on food stamps who can’t get her tubes tied because she’s under 30. I knew another woman who also had kids, was under 30, and couldn’t get her tubes tied even though her last pregnancy nearly killed her. Not to mention all the adult women who just plain don’t want kids.

    I am not a parent and don’t want to be one, but I remember enough of my own childhood to know that I changed my mind about many things all the time and was often doing the magical thinking thing. This is because children don’t have a fully developed brain. Back in the day, this was called “playing make-believe”, not “100% true to reality.”

    If your kid liked to make-believe that s/he was a cat, would you take her/him to get tattoos and surgery to better resemble a cat? If so, CPS would come down on that.


  5. I understand what you’re saying here, and it’s a valid argument, but if you’re truly transgender, it’s not a whim like a piercing, or even a conscious choice like religion or how many children to have. If you’re born a man, you’ll stay a man, whether you’re in the proper body or not.

    The hormones and their potential side effects are troubling, but one of my closest friends is a transgender man (he’s a woman living in a man’s body). This has caused him so much pain over the years, and even as he approaches 70, he’s afraid to reveal who he really is. I can only imagine how much pain he would have avoided if he could have experienced life as a little girl and young woman instead of forever disguising who he is. Imagine being told you have to wear a costume for your entire life – a costume that doesn’t fit, and that you can’t escape. A costume you feel is hideously ugly. That’s just the tip of the iceberg, but that’s how s/he feels. Once you’re known as one gender into adulthood, it’s extremely difficult and traumatic to change.

    I guess it’s up to the parents to figure out if their child is truly transgender, or just expressing personality traits that may be outside of what we think of as “gender appropriate,” whatever that is. It probably is safer to wait for a bit. But if someone is truly transgender, they’ll never grow out of it or change their mind, just like gays can’t suddenly decide to be straight.


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